It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”

-Theodore Roosevelt

Despite your planning, your visualizing, your researching and your positive thinking, somehow you still failed.

And it hurts.  Badly!

You can ruminate on the idea that everybody fails in your head, but still, your heart aches as you try to push away words like loser and worthless.

So how do you Bounce Back from failure?

You fail forward.

No one wants to fail; and risk and uncertainty are scary for everyone.  But confident people aren’t less likely to fail; they are just more comfortable with the idea that failure isn’t going to kill them.  And, they have figured out how to call on their strengths during times of failure to launch forward into the next great event in their lives.

Typically we think if we had all the answers and knew the future we would be more confident.  But, confidence isn’t about having all the answers to our future.  No one has a map outlining the next 10 years.  But some people do have a map to themselves.  They know what they are capable of and where their weak spots show up.  Confident people have created a personal map outlining their strengths and know how to utilize their own personal superpowers to get the most out of life.  A map outlining your own personal superpowers allows you to access the strongest parts of yourself during life’s most difficult moments.  Neuro-Linguistic Programming is like a user’s manual for the brain, and learning how to become fluent in the language of your mind allows you to finally understand what you truly want out of life.  Confidence is knowing you are going to fail again and again and again.  Acknowledging that failure doesn’t mean losing.  It means drawing on your inner landscape and pulling out the tools you need to move forward.

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Happiness is not having everything you want in life.  No one has that and honestly, that person would be pretty lonely because no one would ever want to be around them!  Happiness is learning how to move forward and having the confidence to show up for yourself when you need yourself the most.  Failure teaches us humility, failure teaches us grace, and failing forward teaches us strength.  Bounce Back from failure and move forward.

Sarah K Ramsey