Rejection hurts. Not only does it wreak havoc on your emotional state, scientists have found that the pain associated with rejection is linked to the way we feel physical pain in our body.
Even worse, we don’t just feel the first pain of rejection; we create a second pain through our own berating self-talk. We replay the bad thing that happened to us and create a habit of spiraling into our negative feelings. After a while, we start missing out on new opportunities because we are too busy dealing with the pain of old rejections.
Does this feel familiar? You don’t have to keep living that way.
Letting our brains spiral into negativity after a rejection is like allowing a destructive child to run free in our homes. Most of us would stop a child from punching holes in our walls, but we are less likely to stop our subconscious beliefs from punching holes in our confidence. In many ways, we have to train our minds like we would train an unruly child, so negative self-talk does not control our future without us even realizing it.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming is like a user’s manual for the brain. It allows you to become fluent in the language of your own mind to help you finally discover your strengths and figure out what you want out of life. It was developed by modeling expert communicators and therapists who achieved results with their clients. NLP is a set of tools and techniques, but it is so much more than that. It is an attitude and a methodology of knowing how to transform your life after a rejection and achieve the results you need to Bounce Back into your future!
Life coaching involves a regularly scheduled 60-minute phone call every two weeks and a check in email in between calls. During this time we will discuss the following:
- Clarify what you want.
- Assess where you currently are.
- Review your resources and options.
- Create an action plan.
- Strategize ways to keep you motivated.
- Strategize ways to keep pushing you toward your goals.
- Celebrate the awesome successes along the way.
Together we examine what is going on right now, discover what obstacles or challenges might be standing in your way and choose a course of action to embark you on the journey toward your best possible life. The ability to Bounce Back after rejection isn’t a checklist – it is a transformation. It is a new way of looking at every conversation, connection, and opportunity. It is living in the true confidence of your ability to give your best self to the world. You have a gift and that gift is you! Just because someone else didn’t see the gift this time doesn’t mean it isn’t there. It doesn’t mean it isn’t beautiful.